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How We Turn Our Dating and Relationship Experiences Into Negative Belief Systems!
December 6, 2008 by Match Making
Filed under Woman Dating Online
OMG! You won’t believe this…it changed my life!
Somethings been bugging me lately and I couldn’t put my finger on it. Stressing about relationships, money and my coaching practice. I’m sure we all have these stresses, but why suffer?
I’ll tell you what I believe:
I suddenly got an a-ha moment where everything seemed crystal clear. What have I been doing to make me stress out so much? The first idea that came to mind, I was judging everything I was doing in my life. Don’t get me wrong. My life is pretty good, but I realized then and there that it could be even more wonderful if i just let go of outcomes and stop judging things that happen in my life.
I had to share it with everyone else.
What I learned:
1. Our Experiences, without judgment. “I jump to fast in relationships, I hook-up a lot, My relationships don’t last for more than 3-4 months.”
2. What we make up about our experiences.
3. What we make up inevitably become our beliefs. “Relationships are too hard. They don’t last. There are no quality guys out there. All they want is sex first, etc.”
4. The actions we take as a result of these beliefs. ” Continue to get into relationships too soon, hook-up on line, put up with a bad relationship instead of doing something about it, compromise our values and requirements.”
After this revelation, my practice has sprouted new wings and I am OK with being a one-man show, my life’s purpose is clearer than it ever was, and I understand where I need to be when it comes to my own love life.
All it took was some stillness, awareness and a flip of the switch.
Oh, yeah, there is something else. I realized that part of being human is to suffer - another part of being human is to evolve from the suffering and into enlightenment and joy!
Happy Breakthroughs!
Love,
Greg
Remember, being single isn’t a burden, it’s an OPPORTUNITY!
Greg Halpen works with highly motivated and successful single gay men who are frustrated by repeating the same dating and relationship choices expecting different results and ready to play a BIGGER game!
http://TheGayGuysLoveCoach.com
By Greg Halpen
